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Info reasonable (if dating quickly), but twisted by anger
While much of the info is correct (if changing quickly, thanks to the rise of shared-custody arrangements), the tone perpetuates the stereotype of raging ex-husband who demonizes the wife, and aims to "win".There's no winning with an attitude like this.And I see this attitude leaving woman after woman feeling like she has to simply shut down any attempt at communication and relationship-building with her ex.
Realistic
this book is informative.It shows you what you might expect.For me, it was a review of what has happened and a quick look at what I might have to look forward to.It was a good book.It showed me that my illogical, so to be ex-wife, is not the only woman out there who cares more about herself than the best interests of her child.When do we, as a society, get real about this and do something about it?Keep in mind that the best way to divorce (even with children involved) is to be able to discuss things with your spouse and to work them out amicably.If that is not happening please, for the sake of yourself and your children, do not just roll over and let her walk over you.Read this book or a book like it, and seek out an attorney who communicates and has experience with what you are going through.It will cost money but it is well worth it.Most of all, your child will appreciate the effort you put forth to continue your relationship with her (or him).

Get this book and read it, take notes, study it, and then file for your divorce.
This is one of the best books I've found on divorce and/or custody issues. It is easy enough to read for the novice, yet is packed with information to be valuable to an expert. Get this book and read it, take notes, study it, and then file for your divorce. It will be some of the best money you will spend. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Divorce & Separation    2. Domestic Relations - Divorce & Separation    3. Family & Relationships / Divorce    4. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    5. Law    6. Law / Domestic Relations / Divorce & Separation    7. Legal Reference / Law Profession    8. Practical Guides    9. Child custody    10. Custody of children    11. Divorce    12. Divorced fathers    13. Family & Relationships    14. Family/Marriage    15. Fathers    16. Gender studies    17. Legal status, laws, etc.    18. United States   

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Indispensable
For a non-custodial father, this book is tantamount to having a lawyer, a friend and a child-advocate at your becken call 24-7.

"Words From the Wise"
Thank you for writing this book!The author put a lot of experience and thought into his writing.The information in here surely saved me time, money and anguish from what would have been fruitless efforts.Thanks for carrying this Amazon.com.

The Best Fathers' Rights Book
This well written book covers every aspect of the issues surrounding fathers' rights.Every chapter in attorney Gross' book is right on point.
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Subjects:  1. Administrative Law & Regulatory Practice    2. Divorce    3. Family & Relationships    4. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    5. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    6. Family/Marriage    7. Fathers    8. Legal status, laws, etc.    9. Parent And Child    10. Parent and child (Law)    11. Parenting - Fatherhood    12. Popular works    13. United States    14. Family & Relationships / Fatherhood   

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A must for anyone even thinking of getting a divorce!
I bought this book and even though I used a lawyer it was great.I totally understood everything to expect and it did not seem so confusing.I really liked seeing what the forms are.The info about mediation would have helped me a lot if I ordered the book before we went to the lawyer.The advice about custody was so right.

divorce is STILL too difficult even with this book..
even with the book, i feel like its too much of a maze for us.. we might have to get a lawyer after all.

Easy to understand and very helpful
This book was so helpful. It explained the laws and my alternatives. Even though I ended up getting an attorney because my case was reallycomplicated and nasty, I used the book to answer questions that came up.Being able to look at the forms in the book really helped me to understandwhat my attorney was doing ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Administrative Law & Regulatory Practice    2. Divorce    3. Domestic Relations - Divorce & Separation    4. Law    5. Law and legislation    6. Legal Reference / Law Profession    7. New York (State)    8. Popular works    9. Practical Guides    10. Reference   

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Inaccurate Data from a Terrible Professor
I am a current graduate student of Professor Weitzman. My classmates and I are extremely disappointed that our university has employed Weitzman--for hundreds of reasons. As for this book, though... The book says that women and children see a 72% drop in their standard of living while men's increases 42%. Weitzman blamed the error of 72%, which should be more like half of that number, on her research assistant. Did Weitzman not check the data analysis? Why did she base an entire book on her inaccurate numbers? This book was once considered groundbreaking, so much that it influenced policy at least in the U.S. and Canada, causing millions of divorcees to pay more spousal and child support than they should have. My rating is really ZERO stars. If you want to know more about this book, simply Google Weitzman's name, and you will find at least 700 websites dedicated to criticizing her.

based on flawed research and mathematical errors
Weitzman falsified data and made numerous mathematical errors and faulty data gathering techniques to make her case that women and children suffer much worse financially after divorce than do divorced fathers.Feministpropaganda at its finest, which has been used to hurt many children andfathers. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Civil Procedure    2. Divorce    3. Divorced women    4. General    5. Law and legislation    6. Marital property    7. Social conditions    8. Sociology    9. United States   

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Best book ever seen on this topic!
I recently joined a new accounting firm and one of my first cases was to do a thorough financial investigation for a wealthy client going through a difficult divorce.I purchased this book and couldn't believe how much detail and information was provided--everything I needed to refer to and more.The perfect book for reference.I'll keep it on my bookshelf for the life of my career. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Accounting - General    2. Administrative Law & Regulatory Practice    3. Business & Economics    4. Business/Economics    5. Discovery (Law)    6. Divorce settlements    7. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    8. Forensic accounting    9. Legal Reference / Law Profession    10. Marital property    11. United States    12. Accounting    13. Family law    14. Law / Domestic Relations / Divorce & Separation    15. Property, real estate, land & tenancy law    16. Separation & divorce    17. USA   

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Good book for a difficult situation
While going through a divorce can be difficult, this book shows that there are real, concrete ways to make it less so.The book is well organized.Written in plain English, it's also easy to understand.It offers good tips and links to other valuable resources.The book provides important guidelines for managing finances, preparing and filing legal papers, dividing property and more.The author continually stresses the importance of taking the high road, which helps keep the flame low on a potentially volatile situation.When both parties are in respectful relationship to each other, she writes, it helps ease the process and make for a smoother transition after the divorce, which is especially important when there are children to consider. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Divorce    2. Divorce & Separation    3. Domestic Relations Law    4. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    5. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    6. Family Law - General    7. Law    8. Law and legislation    9. Popular works    10. United States   

Reviews (6)

Be Sure to Get the Newest Edition
(As of 10/27, it wasn't listed on Amazon, so you might have to go to the Nolo site to get it)
Worked for me
Well, I did my own divorce in 2000 and I used this book. It can be confusing if you are trying to do a more involved divorce. Mine was a simple agreed divorce, with no kids or property to split up... So if you got more things involved, you might want to use a lawyer or do as much as you can by yourself to save you money.

A very expensive mistake
This book does not cover some extremely important issues, such as appeals, appeal periods and motions for new trials.
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Subjects:  1. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    2. Government - State, Provincial & Municipal    3. Law    4. Legal Reference / Law Profession    5. Law / Domestic Relations / Divorce & Separation   

Subjects:  1. Assessment, Testing & Measurement    2. Children of divorced parents    3. Custody of children    4. Family Law - Children    5. Forensic Psychology    6. Psychology    7. United States    8. Child welfare    9. Private, property, family law    10. Psychology & Psychiatry / Forensic Psychology    11. USA   

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Mother's best interest or childs?
I have news for Deedra, it is just as humiliating, infuriating, and degrading for a father as it is for a mother. If women spent more time meeting the short and long term needs of their children they wouldn't be so wounded. Mother's start out on top with the legal system and usually end up on top. Deedra and the other women are heard by the legal system even when they whisper. It doesn't need to be a fight if everyone is concentrating on our children. Children need a mother and a father even if those people live in different homes.
Most Inspirational Book for Women!
This is the most inspirational child custody book I have seen. The 8 pages of Index allow women to find thir way through the legal and emotional battle. Personally, I think that custody is more of a parent's issue than a men against women issue. Although this book does not deal with unsual situations, it is worth the $10.00 price.

Cool, calm, professional advice.
I enjoyed this style of writing but would have liked more informatio on how to deal with the down and dirty dished out by the other side. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Custody of children    2. Divorce    3. Divorced women    4. Domestic Relations - Children    5. Domestic Relations - Divorce & Separation    6. Family Law - Children    7. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    8. Law    9. Legal Reference / Law Profession    10. Popular works    11. Practical Guides    12. United States    13. Law / Domestic Relations / Divorce & Separation   

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A Leading Judge's Insights into California Divorce
As presiding judge of Silicon Valley's Santa Clara County Family Court, Judge Stewart has made decisions regarding the dissolution of literally thousands of California marriages.He knows what he is talking about, and in this fascinating account he provides the strategies to enable people to come though the process with as little damage to themselves, their children, their spouses, and their finances as possible.Anyone facing divorce in California, or elsewhere, for that matter, should buy this book and study it carefully. Divorce Handbook for California: How to dissolve your marrig
I found Judge Stewart's Divorce Handbook for California to be not only incredibly thorough, but also quite easy to understand and free of condescending "legalese". In fact, there is an extensive glossary of terms that I could quickly refer to if I was at all unsure of a legal concept.This book is superior to the "do it yourself" variety, because it illustrates a variety of legal options for the reader, including how to hire a competent attorney and yet protect yourself financially. Because divorce is such a complicated and emotional process, it is reassuring to have a clear and comprehensive resource to turn to for info on a variety of legal issues, such as spousal support, division of property, custody, attorneys etc. I enthusiastically recommend this extremely useful book! ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Administrative Law & Regulatory Practice    2. California    3. Divorce    4. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    5. Handbooks & Manuals    6. Law and legislation    7. Legal Reference / Law Profession    8. Popular works    9. Reference    10. Self-Help   

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Very helpful.
I found this book to be very helpful. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Divorce    2. Divorce & Separation    3. Divorce settlements    4. Divorced men    5. Domestic Relations - Divorce & Separation    6. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    7. Law    8. Legal Reference / Law Profession    9. Popular works    10. United States    11. Business & Economics / Personal Finance / General    12. Men's studies    13. Separation & divorce   

Subjects:  1. Custody of children    2. Divorce    3. Divorce & Separation    4. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    5. Forensic Psychology    6. Interpersonal Relations    7. Psychological aspects    8. Psychology    9. Psychotherapy - Couples & Family    10. Psychotherapy - General    11. Reference    12. United States    13. Family law    14. Psychology & Psychiatry / Family Therapy    15. Psychotherapy    16. Separation & divorce   

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The best resource on divorce in the market!
This book is arguably the most respectable and comprehensive guidebook on Divorce out there in the market place. The book draws on literally thousands of important and current research studies and synthesizes the information in a balanced way, pointing out inconsistencies in the research and highlighting clear trends in the data. It addresses all major questions anyone might have about divorce, its causes, the process, and its consequences. As a legal professional I find it answers many of the questions that I am often faced with and have never found a clear answer to. Elsewhere one finds loads of unqualified opinions, but solid research based information is hard to come by. I don't have the time to review thousands of studies and to compare their results. So having this book is in incredible help. The authors have done a great job toning down professional research jargon. The book features case studies that highlight certain points and give the book some flesh and blood among the wealth of facts and statistics. I have a library of divorce books but none of those other books covered divorce from start to finish as well as this one did while supporting all points with up to date research.
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Subjects:  1. Children of divorced parents    2. Custody of children    3. Divorce    4. Divorce & Separation    5. Family & Relationships    6. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    7. Family/Marriage    8. General    9. Psychological aspects    10. Psychology    11. Sociology    12. Sociology - Marriage & Family    13. Psychology & Psychiatry / General    14. Separation & divorce    15. Social security & welfare law   

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transformative reading
Pauline Tesler is able to combine thought-provoking theory with practical process advice.This is an indispensable tool for collaborative practitioners as well as fascinating reading for anyone who is concerned about the emotional and financial toll of traditional divorce.Working with attorneys as problem-solvers, rather than adversarial litigators, is a revolutionary concept whose time has come.This book provides expert guidance for professionals and the public about the collaborative option.I highly recommend it!

Collaborative Bible
As an attorney engaged in collaborative practice, I make more use of Pauline Tesler's book than any other practice resource. Beyond explaining the basic collaborative philosophy in clear terms, her book provides the practical, step-by-step tools that a practitioner needs to get through the challenging parts of the process. Invaluable Resource
Pauline Tesler's book, Collaborative Law, is an outstanding resource for attorneys interested in transforming the litigious divorce process into a client-oriented, principled, and efficient way to solve the problems associated with ending a marital relationship. It not only explains the principles of collaborative family law but provides substantial guidance in making the paradigm shift to this innovative approach and comes with a disk with a core collection of forms needed to get started as a collaborative lawyer.As a family law attorney for over 27 years and a fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers I found this book to be invaluable. Nonlawyers will also find this book helpful in finding a better way to divorce. Collaborative family law is growing throughout the U.S. and Canada--and Pauline Tesler has played a leading role in this through her lectures and this fine book. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Administrative Law & Regulatory Practice    2. Attorney and client    3. Compromise (Law)    4. Dispute resolution (Law)    5. Divorce suits    6. Law    7. Legal Reference / Law Profession    8. United States    9. Family law    10. Law / General    11. USA   

Subjects:  1. Domestic Relations - Divorce & Separation    2. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    3. Law    4. Legal Reference / Law Profession    5. Law / Domestic Relations / Divorce & Separation   

Subjects:  1. Divorce suits    2. Domestic Relations - Divorce & Separation    3. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    4. Forensic psychology    5. Law    6. Legal Reference / Law Profession    7. United States    8. Family law    9. Separation & divorce   

Subjects:  1. Children of divorced parents    2. Custody of children    3. Divorce    4. Divorce & Separation    5. Domestic Relations Law    6. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    7. Family Law - Children    8. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    9. Family relationships    10. Family/Marriage    11. Social Science    12. Sociology - Marriage & Family    13. United States   

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practical advice
I found this book very helpful and readable in the two months after I discovered my wife's affair.The author writed very specifically to a female audience, but asserts (and I agree) that most of the advice is applicable to spouses of either gender.Harvey goes a long way to breaking paralysis and offering something to the agonizing "what do I do?".
Wonderful, practical advice
A few months ago my wife told me about her affair and desire to leave.Since that time, I've read a number of books telling me how to save my marriage and survive infidelity, even if my wife didn't want to stay married.I tried all sorts of things to keep our marriage together, some of them "guaranteed" to work.
You must have this book
I read this book within a week after my wife left me, and it helped me tremendously. Donald Harvey maybe oversimplifies things, but when you are going through the crisis, you want to know why this is happening and what to do. Not all of the "why" questions will ever be answered, but this book helped me make some sense of what was going on, why a spouse leaves and what to do and how to do it. Most of the time if someone leaves a marriage it is the husband and just to make it easier to read he refers to the spouse that has left as "he" or the "husband".
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Subjects:  1. Christianity    2. Christianity - Christian Life - General    3. Divorce    4. General    5. Inspirational - Protestant Self Help    6. Marriage    7. Religion    8. Religion - Relationships    9. Religious aspects    10. Separation (Law)    11. Religion & Beliefs   

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From the horses mouth.
You can find some help-full suggestions in this self-serving book by a California judge, with contributions from a custody evaluator. But, you will have to look hard for something new and there are much better books listed on Amazon.
Read with a grain of sand....
I am very familiar with the courts in Santa Clara County (CA), having myself been caught up in a nasty custody battle (and other attendant battles) for 18 years.
California Custody Book
Judge Stewart does a good job of getting you started in the California court system (where I fought my first battle). The primary information is about parent's rights. Standard information such as a glossary and topics like child abuse, false molestation and how to select a lawyer are included. Worth the $12.00. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Custody of children    2. Family Law - Children    3. Family Law - Divorce & Separation    4. Law    5. Legal Reference / Law Profession    6. Practical Guides    7. United States   

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Great book about understanding divorce!
I never thought I'd be in this situation. Divorce is one of those things that happens to other people. With all the emotions surrounding this life changing event, I found it hard to concentrate on the legal and financial aspects of divorce - until I found this book.
Nifty Guide in a Difficult Time
Brette McWhorter Sember's "Divorce Organizer Planner" is quite the useful guide. Not only has she filled it with many helpful forms, she has sprinkled tips throughout the guide's 17 chapters.
Nuts & Bolts Advice for the Divorcing
Divorce ranks as one of the most stressful events you can go through in a lifetime, even when it's fairly amicable, and many aren't. Even though your emotions are in turmoil, you have to be as objective as possible when going through a divorce to ensure that you (and your kids, if you have any) get a fair deal.
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Subjects:  1. Administrative Law & Regulatory Practice    2. Divorce    3. Divorce & Separation    4. Divorce suits    5. Domestic Relations Law    6. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    7. Family Law - General    8. Popular works    9. Social Science    10. Sociology    11. Sociology - Marriage & Family    12. United States    13. Family & Relationships / Divorce    14. Separation & divorce